Dear Reader,

Dear 2012 - What have you learned this year? Before looking forward to 2013 it is useful to look back on 2012, review it, learn from it and then plan for the future. Look out for January's Inspire, which will be published on Thursday 3rd January, for looking ahead to 2013 and what you want from your year ahead.

More morsels of information at the end of this Inspire about ….

  • Free coaching audits …. Have you wondered whether coaching could help you achieve your goals?
  • Free Team Development Audits …. Are you a manager who wants to realise the full potential of your team?
  • E-book – Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom is now available on Kindle, buy it now by clicking here.
  • Do you want fascinating and practical talks for your business network event? I speak at a range of events….
  • Read previous editions of Inspire from January 2006 … click here
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Melanie Greene

Dear 2012 - What have you learned this year?

Dear 2012 …. I am borrowing this idea from Alison Piasecka and Sarah Salwa, they are running a workshop that I am attending in December which is called ‘Dear Year', although as I write this I have not yet attended the workshop and therefore don't know exactly what they are planning! (see here for details). My take on this is, if you were going to write a letter to 2012, what might it say? Think about doing the following:

  • Thanking 2012 for the highlights – what were they?
  • Perhaps ranting at 2012 for being so ****** difficult.
  • Perhaps thanking 2012 for the challenges, as they can often prove useful in our personal growth.
  • What have you learned in 2012:
    • Personal learnings – for example, I have had some very challenging interactions to deal with through this year and I am very pleased with how I handled them, without getting too stressed.
    • Work related learnings – for example, I have been learning about neuroscience, which has been fascinating, and I have been applying it to my own life and introducing the ideas to clients.
    • World related learnings – have you come to any realisations about the bigger picture?

‘The secret of gratitude is to stop focusing on what you do not have, and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all that you are and all that you do have.'

Dr Wayne W Dyer

What is your key personal realisation or insight? This is something that you can take with you into the future. Thinking back to some of my coaching clients this year, here are some of the things they might have insights into:

  • It is never as bad as you think it is going to be. ‘It' being whatever you were dreading, whether it was that difficult meeting, interview, family gathering or so called ‘day from hell'.
  • Life is a constant process of learning and growing. You never get ‘there', wherever ‘there' is!
  • If you want things to be different, then you have to do something different. There is that old adage of, ‘If you always do, what you have always done, you'll always get, what you always got, and if you don't like it, you need to do something different!!'
  • Challenging relationships with others, in or out of work, start to change when you start to change.

Looking back on your experience of 2012, is there some insight that you will find useful to take into 2013? Perhaps write it down on a post-it note and put it somewhere prominent in your office or home as a reminder. Or write it on a postcard and give it to a friend and ask them to post it to you if you start to lose the plot in 2013!

‘I am learning that if I just go on accepting the framework for life that others have given me, if I fail to make my own choices, the reason for my life will be missing. I will be unable to recognise that which I have the power to change. I refuse to spend my life regretting the things I failed to do.'

Liv Ullman

Who do you want to thank? When the nights start getting longer, the days are greyer (for readers in the northern hemisphere), it is easy to start getting low. A sure way to cheer yourself up is to think about all the people you want to thank for what they did in 2012, how they supported you and the fun you had with them. And then think about dropping them an email, a card or saying thank you to them for ……..

‘Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?**'

Author Unknown

**If you would like a copy of the whole poem, then email

Who or what did you miss out on? Are there people you didn't get a chance to catch up with in 2012, are there things you hoped to do, which you didn't get around to? Perhaps 2013 will be the year when you do these things.

Dear 2013 - Look out for January's Inspire, which will be published on Thursday 3rd January for looking ahead to 2013 and what you want from your year ahead.

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love....'

Marcus Aurelius

Do you want some help in reviewing 2012 and planning for 2013?

Free Coaching Audit If you are running your own business, working on your own, then coaching can support you in tackling the day to day issues you face. One area of work that I have been asked to work on quite a lot this year, is in helping clients overcome the psychological blocks to marketing and selling. This free Coaching Audit is designed for individuals who are wondering whether coaching will benefit them and wanting to think through what they want to focus on during a coaching programme. The Coaching Audit involves the following:

  • You complete a pre-coaching questionnaire and return it to me.
  • We have a 45 minute telephone conversation to discuss your needs and what coaching might be necessary to meet your needs. I make sure that you get something practical from the free audit.
  • I send a proposal of what training, coaching or counselling might be suitable.
  • You make the decision as to whether they wish to proceed.

Free Team Development Audit If you are a manager of a team, this is a new service to help you to review your team's performance and think through what development they might need. The Team Development Audit works in the same way as the Coaching Audit above, but with a questionnaire which is focused on you, as the manager and your team.

Team Development Programmes Wouldn't it be great if you sat down as a team and constructively reviewed the year, drew out your lessons learned and decided what you are going to focus on in 2013? We run a variety of team development programmes to suit your needs. Email or call me on 01865 377334 to discuss your team development needs.

121 Coaching For Managers I coach managers from a wide variety of businesses for a range of purposes, from developing their own coaching and performance management skills, managing pressure and stress to presenting yourself with confidence.

‘You cannot teach people anything. You can only help them to discover it within themselves'.



E-book I've gone digital, or at least my book has! ‘Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom' is now available on Kindle, buy it now by clicking here


Do you want speakers for your business network event? I speak at a range of team events, away days and business networks, and always make sure that the talks are interactive and practical, with people learning something that they can directly apply back at work. Recent talks have included:

  • Managing Challenging Interactions
  • Mastering Your Inner Critic (based on my book)
  • Changing Habits of a Lifetime
  • Learning From Your Mistakes
  • Managing Your Mood and Motivation
  • Your Brain At Work


Do you want a taster of our services? Then take a look at our freebies on the website for:

Recordings of my free webinars on:

  • Mastering your inner critic.
  • Changing Habits of A Lifetime
  • Improve Your Performance: Learn From Your Mistakes And Successes

Click here to listen to these recordings.

Free articles on the following topics:

  • Selling from the Inside Out
  • Managing Mood and Motivation During Challenging Times
  • Supporting others through Challenging Times
  • Master your inner critic
  • Buying in consultancy

Click here to read the articles.

For further book recommendations: click here


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