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How does critical thinking differ from the inner critic? Recently someone said to me that they did not want to get rid of their inner critic because it helped them to be critical about their work, and they were concerned that they would become complacent about their performance. This got me thinking about the difference between critical thinking and the inner critic.

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  • Positive Stories – pass them on – I've had to dig deep to find something good to pass onto you this time!
  • There are still a couple of places left on the Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom workshop on Saturday 21st February. If you want to make sure that you maintain your confidence and remain positive throughout 2009 then mastering your inner critic is a good place to start.
  • New Zealand book launch, Monday 2nd March in Christchurch, click here to email me for details if you are located in Christchurch and would like to attend. The session includes a free one hour taster session based on the book.
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Best wishes

Melanie Greene

How does critical thinking differ from the inner critic?

Is there a difference? – Critical thinking is about being discerning about what we see, hear and feel. It is about using our intuition, thinking objectively about what others and we do and say. So how does it differ from the inner critic? Let's take an example of attending an important meeting that was tough but you held your ground. Using your critical thinking, you sit back and objectively review how it went: what went well, what you could have done differently, what you can take forward into other meeting situations. However, with the inner critic it tends to be critical in a destructive way about everything we do, say and who we are as a person. For example, in the same situation the inner critic might say, ‘You are pathetic, you let X get away with murder in that meeting, you forgot to discuss Y, they'll never ask you back again, etc., etc.'. Usually said in a critical, harsh tone of the internal voice. Which you have to agree is not a very constructive or motivating way to review a situation.

‘Nurture your mind with great thoughts.'  Benjamin Disraeli

What are the benefits of critical thinking? The main benefit is it provides you with a rational, logical, clear view of a situation. For example, if you are thinking about applying for a promotion or changing careers to follow your dream, your critical thinking will assist you in identifying your strengths and development needs, the steps needed to succeed and perhaps what training or coaching would help you to develop further. With the inner critic you might not even get off the starting block as it might fill you with doubt about your abilities to cope with a new and bigger job; or it might criticise you for not having fulfilled your dream in the first place with, ‘Why do you think you will succeed now?' This is likely to fill your head with negative thoughts and images, so that even if you take action you might be setting yourself up for failure.

What would be the benefits to you of using your critical thinking rather than allowing the inner critic to take over?

‘Thoughts are energy, and you can make your world or break your world by your thinking.'  Susan L Taylor

How can I tell when it is the inner critic or critical thinking? – Partly it comes down to how you end up feeling. With critical thinking you are being objective, you are likely to feel positive about yourself and the situation, you will have a clear sense of what you need to do next and feel motivated to take action. When it is your inner critic you are more likely to end up feeling bad about yourself, unconfident, and it might even stop you from taking action.

Think about challenging situations or decisions you have faced recently. How have you felt? Did you feel upbeat and positive, or anxious and demotivated?

‘The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.'  Marcus Aurelius

Is critical thinking different from criticising yourself or others? – Critical thinking does not necessarily mean you are being critical (of yourself or others). It all depends on the emotional state you are coming from. True critical thinking is rational and objective, therefore, you need to be in a calm state to do it. If we are angry, frustrated or fearful about something, our thinking and anything we say is not likely to be calm and rational thinking. Therefore, your comments are more likely to come from your inner critic than your critical thinking.

When do you end up criticising yourself or others rather than using critical thinking?

How can you develop your critical thinking? – There are a range of ways in which you can develop and use your critical thinking and some are described here and explained in more depth in my book, Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom (see right hand column for details and information about the February workshop based on it):

  • Balance debriefing – I've talked about balanced debriefing before as it is one way of mastering your inner critic by making sure that when you review what you have done you do it in a balanced way and don't just focus on what has gone wrong. (Click here to email for the handout)
  • Manage your emotional response: step back, take an objective viewpoint – often our emotional response can cloud our thinking, so finding ways of being able to take a mental step back, take a break and manage your emotions will assist you in thinking more critically.
  • Don't take things at face value: ask questions – think of questions that will help you to explore ideas and what you are being told or what you are reading. If in doubt ask a question.
  • Deal with your fears and concerns – our fears and concerns are often dismissed by our inner critic, leaving us feeling anxious and uncertain which is not a good state to be in if you need to think logically and rationally. However, by acknowledging and listening to your concerns, you can then use your critical thinking to help you deal with them.
  • Release your inner wisdom – inner wisdom is our intuition, the part of us that instinctively knows what is the right thing to say or do. It is an essential part of us that is needed if we are going to use our critical thinking abilities. Releasing our inner wisdom is a natural, positive by-product of mastering our inner critic.

What action are you going to take to master your inner critic and develop your critical thinking?

If you want to master your inner critic and release your inner wisdom and your ability to think critically then come along to the next workshop on Saturday 21st February near Oxford. Click here for details.

‘All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking.' Friedrich Nietzsche


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Positive news to pass on

In January's edition I said that I would find positive news to pass on to you to counter all the doom and gloom and it is proving quite a challenge to find any. It is certainly not evident in the regular newspapers.

Trained for the emergency that might never happen - Of course, there was the remarkable landing on the Hudson river of Flight 1549, which did fill me with awe about how pilots spend 99.9% of their time flying in what are normal, and probably boring, conditions and then have the ability and calmness to switch into emergency mode and do the right thing to land a plane safely. How many of us would be able to react like that in an emergency situation? A friend's husband trains trainers of pilots and you realise that their training is for a situation that might never happen but they have to keep on training for it just in case it does.

The hope of the world on his shoulders - As I write this Barack Obama is being inaugurated later today. He is calling on Americans to work together at a time of hardship. I can't help thinking that people are seeing him as the saviour when it will be the actions that we all take everyday that are going to make the difference, economically, environmentally and in terms of peace in our communities and the world. So what are you going to do today to make a difference?

Doing very little can make a big difference – it was in The Psychologist Journal that I found an article of hope. In an article titled ‘Can psychology change the world?' Tommy MacKay talked about changing the world by raising children's reading levels. Evidently every year in the UK 100,000 young people leave school ‘functionally illiterate' with huge impact on their ability to get a job and move on in the world. He quoted three schemes that had radically changed primary and secondary children's reading abilities. Here is what he says about one study in East Renfrewshire:

‘The idea was simple to the point of naïvety. All the children had to do every day was to make bold declarations about their future levels of reading achievement. It could be done individually or in groups or as a whole class chant. Listening to 60 children in nursery chanting joyfully their own declaration – ‘reading is fun, reading is cool, we'll all be great readers because we're going to school!' – can be a powerful experience. It was the results, however, that were impressive. After one term the experimentals showed not only gains in key early literacy skills, but also positive changes in their attitudes to reading and their own beliefs about whether they would become good readers.'

One secondary school student involved in another scheme said:

‘When all this started I couldn't read. I was a failure. Now I have a cupboardful of books at home. Now I am a success.'

Reading the article inspired me and filled me with hope that changes can happen in people's lives and sometimes by making small, but significant, changes. If you want a free copy of his full report ‘Achieving the Vision' click here to email a request. 

Most primary schools have reading schemes with volunteers from local businesses and the community, so if you want to help change a young person's life contact your local school.


Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom

Saturday 21st February, Kidlington, Oxon.  This programme is based on my book and includes the one day workshop, a copy of my book, and two follow up coaching emails to assist you in putting your learning into practice.  Click here to email me for more details about the programme.


To order a copy of my book Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom, click here to email me for an order form. £8.99 plus £1.00 UK P&P.


New Zealand launch of Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom, 2nd March, Christchurch 7 – 9 pm. The session includes a free one hour taster session based on the book. Click here to email me for details.

Body, Mind, Spirit Conference on Sunday 1st March at noon in Christchurch, New Zealand. I will be running a workshop based on my book.  Click here for more details.


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