Dear Reader

Fun child, what does this mean to you? You might have seen me mentioning the Fun Child in other editions of Inspire, and I thought with the summer holidays and long days ahead of us (even if they turn out to be wet ones!) I would focus on our Fun Child. Why is this important? Because it is where we get our energy from, it helps us to be creative, it provides lightness and enjoyment to life.

I decided that instead of using quotes from the great and the good, I would put in jokes to appeal to your Fun Child and I found a list of supposedly real mistakes on CV’s – see the end of this for a free laugh or not!! Feel free to send me any jokes or cartoons, I always like to have the unexpected laugh in the office when things come through via email.

Last month's Inspire – there seemed to be a dip in the open rate of the June edition of Inspire: Why are some horses and people mean? I don’t know whether the title put people off. It was about how people can become labelled (and how we might live with a label from our past) and how this affects our interactions with those who are labelled ‘difficult’, ‘mean’ or whatever. If you did not get a chance to read it I can easily send it to you again.

Last chance in 2007 – See the right hand column for the last dates in 2007 for our public workshops on Coaching & Performance Management, Mastering Your Inner Critic and Managing Challenging Interactions. First chance to experience our new Fantastic Future programme in London visit

Who are Grovelands' clients? If you ever wondered what type of client organisations we work with and whether we could assist you, then take a look at the examples in the right hand column.

Melanie Greene

Fun child, what does this mean to you?

What is the ‘Fun Child’ – The term comes from Transactional Analysis (TA) and is one of the modes that we can operate from. It is where our sense of wonder, humour and creativity comes from. If we don’t tap into it enough both in and outside of work, life can become very grey and stultifying. Some of us can see the funny side and laugh regularly even in the face of challenges. Others can go through long periods where there seems to be little lightness in their life. Recent research has shown the power of laughter in the healing process and in terms of managing pressures in our life.

What does your fun child look, sound and feel like?

What appeals to your Fun Child? – Are there certain people who bring out your Fun Child? What activities pander or trigger it? I am fortunate to have gathered around me associates who have the ability to tap into their Fun Child. Which means that whether we are working together or during one of our very long lunches there is lots of laughter amongst the more serious stuff. During a long meeting or workshop laughter can re-energise people.

Think about your daily life, weekends and holidays – are there more things you can do to appeal to your Fun Child that will leave you feeling energised and uplifted?

What gets in the way of the Fun Child? - If the Fun Child is so good for us and feels great, why does it sometimes disappear? Why do some people seem to lack this part of themselves?

Stress, poor relationships, the inner critic hounding us, all these and many more factors can block our Fun Child.

Laughing in the face of difficulties - I used to quickly lose my sense of humour when things got difficult or stressful, thankfully I have developed the ability to laugh in the face of difficulties. This is a much healthier response and gives me the energy and often the sense of perspective to deal with what is on my plate.

Mastering Your Inner Critic – During my workshops on Mastering Your Inner Critic (next one 13th October) it has become apparent that for some people with a strong inner critic their Fun Child has not developed at all. Often it is as a result of a childhood filled with poverty, ill health in the family, or where they were expected to ‘grow up’ fast and taught that life was a serious business. I now realise that some people who rarely smile, yet alone laugh, often have an absent Fun Child and a crippling inner critic.

Nurturing your Fearful Child – it is hard to laugh and enjoy life if you are almost permanently in a state of fear (this is frequently linked to the inner critic). The tyranny of perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes, saying or doing the wrong thing, leaves little room for laughter. Once people start to be able to look after and nurture their Fearful Child they then start to see a difference in their outlook on life.

What might be blocking your Fun Child? What actions can you take to overcome this?

Here’s the fun bit!!!

Mistakes seen on CV’s:

"I intentionally omitted my salary history. I've made money and lost money. I've been rich and I've been poor. I prefer being rich."

"Note: Please don't misconstrue my 14 jobs as 'job-hopping'. I have never quit a job."

"I was proud to win the Gregg Typting Award."

Reasons for leaving the last job:

"They insisted that all employees get to work by 8:45 every morning. Couldn't work under those conditions."

"The company made me a scapegoat - just like my three previous employers."

Small typos that can change the meaning:

"Develop and recommend an annual operating expense fudget."

"I'm a rabid typist."

Want more Inspiration? If you want to overcome the blocks to your Fun Child or explore how to create more fun and creativity in the workplace then we can offer consultancy advice, 1:1 support, and group workshops  to assist you in doing this. Just call 01865 377334 or email to arrange a time to speak in confidence. For more information about Grovelands visit our website:

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Examples of client organisations

We work both in the public, private and not for profit sectors and the types of industries and organisations we have worked with include:

  • Energy suppliers

  • Healthcare

  • Manufacturing

  • Police forces

  • Children Services

  • Youth Offending Service

  • Secondary schools

  • Sixth form colleges

  • Catering

  • Complimentary health care practitioners

  • Business coaches & consultants

Public programmes in 2007:

Saturday 29th & Sunday 30th SeptemberFantastic Futures for people who want to ensure that their future fulfils their dreams. This workshop will be both creative and provide you with practical techniques to assist you in identifying and fulfilling your dreams. Venue: Regent’s College, London. Visit or click here to see it.

Tuesday 9th October – Coaching & Performance Management This is suitable for first time and experienced managers who want to go beyond the annual appraisal in order to coach and manage performance on a day to day basis. Venue: Oxford Brookes University

Saturday 13th October - Mastering Your Inner Critic, Releasing Your Inner Wisdom workshop – if you find that you are overly harsh with yourself, have difficulty identifying your strengths and successes you might find that your inner critic is getting the best of you. This workshop will provide with practical techniques and inspiration to mastering your inner critic. Venue: Near Oxford

Wednesday 14th November - Managing Challenging Interactions workshop – whether it is in dealing with clients, colleagues, suppliers, friends or family this workshop can assist you in developing your assertiveness, managing the impact of challenging interactions on yourself and having more effective interactions with others. Venue: Near Oxford

For more information or to book a place call Melanie on 01865 377334 or email


Grovelands provides:

  • Consultancy advice

  • 1:1 coaching and mentoring

  • in-house and public workshops

to individuals, partnerships, SMEs and national organisations.

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