Dear Reader

The April edition of Inspire covered Part 1 of ‘What makes a successful life?’ If you missed it I can email you a copy. These two parts are based on a new personal effectiveness programme, Fantastic Futures, which my colleagues and I are designing to be run on a public basis. Here is Part 2, which is focussing on two key points: working on what is within your influence and transforming negativity.

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Melanie Greene

What Makes a Successful Life? Part Two

What is within your control? – I come across a lot of people within organisations with very sore heads from banging their head against the wall time and again over something they have little control over.

Stephen Covey in his book ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’ talks about the circle of concern and circle of influence. And it is a concept that I frequently introduce to clients to help them to be more effective and successful by focussing their efforts on what is within their control.

Your circle of concern can include many things from: job security, your performance, the next presentation you are doing, your children’s education, the environment, war, family strife, your teenager’s drinking habits. But as you can see you have varying control over these things!

Your circle of influence contains everything that you can directly have an impact over: developing your skills; getting a good nights sleep to maintain your performance, managing your response to challenging situations at work, so that you can communicate effectively, re-cycling, using public transport, countering prejudice and conflict in your own life; managing your own mood so that you can react positively to your teenage children. And the list goes on.

Whether you are dealing with a concern in your life or wanting to make changes, you will feel more positive, motivated and satisfied if you focus on what is within your influence.

What is within your circle of concern?

What is within your circle of influence?

Transforming negativity – just about everyone from time to time feels negative about themselves, their situation or life in general, although for some this is more of a state of life than a passing phase. Either way spotting and transforming negativity is one of the keys to success.

Spotting it – being aware of your mood, your energy levels at the beginning, throughout and at the end of the day. If you have trouble doing this I have a ‘mood map’ I can email you to assist you in doing this.

Transforming it – The important point is to find methods that suit you. What can you do that will change your mood, lift your spirits? How can you appeal to your ‘fun child’? If you are able to manage your mood, change your state of mind you are likely to end up feeling more energised and motivated to forge ahead with everything you need to get done.

Go to where the energy is…. this is something a colleague once told me. I have found that if I’m feeling stuck or blocked on a task or project, doing something else, whatever it is, usually leads me to feeling more energised and gives me enough of a sense of achievement to get on with the original task.

Are there areas of your life that you feel negative about? Are there times when you find the negativity seeping in? What can you do to turn this around?

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Creating A Fantastic Future For Yourself

Forthcoming events:

Saturday 12th May - Mastering Your Inner Critic, Releasing Your Inner Wisdom workshop – if you find that you are overly harsh with yourself, have difficulty identifying your strengths and successes you might find that your inner critic is getting the best of you. Near Oxford

Tuesday 5th June - Managing Challenging Interactions workshop – whether it is in dealing with clients, colleagues, suppliers, friends or family this workshop can assist you in developing your assertiveness, managing the impact of challenging interactions on yourself and having more effective interactions with others. Near Oxford

9th - 10th June – Fantastic Futures – this programme is for anyone who either wants to enhance their life or take their life in a new direction. This programme is going to be run in Central London.

In-house training & consultancy:

We offer a range of management development, team working, communication and personal effectiveness workshops that are run within organisations. If you and your team have a specific need then contact us to discuss how we can be of assistance.

For more information or to book a place call Melanie on 01865 377334 or email


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