Dear Reader

I’d like to welcome all our new subscribers – we now have over 500 subscribers to 'Inspire'. If you have any feedback or have a topic that you would like us to cover, then do email me your thoughts.

This month we are exploring the question ‘Is it possible to motivate others?' this follows on from last months edition about Motivating Yourself, which seemed to strike a chord with many people.

You might also be interested in the launch of our ‘Mastering Your Inner Critic, Releasing Your Inner Wisdom’ workshop on July 13th, based on my book of the same title. For more details click here.

Best wishes

Melanie Greene

Melanie Greene

Is It Possible To Motivate Others

  • Who has control over motivation? – if people are really de-motivated or down, can we motivate them or do we only have power over our own motivation. I have certainly seen how managers (parents, partners, and friends) can definitely de-motivate others – a careless comment, the lack of thanks and acknowledgement of a job well done, does more to de-motivate than you would appreciate.

  • How good is your relationship with them? – the strength of your connection with the other person will affect how they will respond to any actions you take. Ask yourself how much rapport do you have with them, do you relate well to each other. Without having some kind of connection it is more of a challenge to support and motivate others. Therefore, if you don’t have much rapport, start by improving your relationship with them and this in itself might help to raise their spirits and motivate them.

‘Real conversations required to sustain a relationship are easily recognised. They are the ones that keep getting put off for another day.’ Stephen Lundin, John Christensen & Harry Paul – FISH for Life

  • What lifts their spirits? – If you have a good connection with them then you are likely to know what motivates and lifts their spirits, and this might help you to know what action to take. For example, do they need someone to listen to them, some more fun in their lives or more stimulation at work, or do they need some practical support?

‘Only as we connect with our conscience can we create the fire within.’ Stephen Covey

  • What de-motivates others? – again this will vary from person to person. It can be lack of acknowledgement for time and effort made; being spoken down to or patronised; not being listened to or having their ideas acknowledged.

Is there anything in your behaviour that might be de-motivating those around you?

An angry look on the face is wholly against nature. If it be assumed frequently, beauty begins to perish, and in the end is quenched beyond rekindling.’ Marcus Aurelius

  • What motivates them? – People are motivated in different ways, one way of looking at this is to find out if they are an ‘Away from’ or ‘Towards’ person:
    • ‘Away from’ people are motivated to take action to avoid things going wrong, to avoid current or future pain and difficulties. For example:
      • Tom decided not to delegate some work, as he would have to spend time explaining what needs to be done, it might not be done right and it might be more time consuming in the end.
      • Jane moved to an new job because she did not get on with her colleagues.
    • ‘Towards’ people are motivate to take action to move towards what they want, rather than moving away from what they do not want. For example:
      • Sally delegates work as she can see that in the long run it will create more time for her and will develop the skills of her team.
      • John moves to a new job as it provides more managerial opportunities and an outlet for his creative skills

Are you an ‘Away From’ or ‘Towards’ person?  Think about people you are looking to motivate – do you need to give them positive things to move towards or emphasise what problems they will eradicate or avoid if they take certain action.

Want more Inspiration? If you want any support in dealing with your own or other people’s motivational issues, we can offer 1:1 support or group workshops to assist you in doing this. Just call 01865 377334 or email  to arrange a time to speak in confidence. For more information about Grovelands visit our website:

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What actions can you take to support & motivate others…

Listen – show you are really listening to them and seek to understand them

Match their energy levels / pace them – Matching their energy levels will make them feel more comfortable, then you can gradually pace them and move them to a more motivated and energetic state.

Support & Challenge – Think of ways to support & encourage them. Skilfully challenge them at the right time, in the right place and in the right way - that is going to be right for them.

Step into their shoes – think what it is like to be them: with their personality, their worries/concerns, their family situation, their job, their commute to work etc. From their perspective think about what they need to support and encourage them.


How can Grovelands help you?

In each issue of ‘Inspire’ I will describe a different aspect of our work.

Mastering Your Inner Critic, Releasing Your Inner Wisdom. Having completed my book on this topic earlier this year and piloted the workshop last month I will be running the first public workshop on the topic on Thursday 13th July.

Through my training and coaching work I have found that the inner critic can either hold you back from realising your full potential and following your dreams. Or it can stop you from enjoying the successes that you do have.

If this strikes a chord with you then click here to email me for more details.

If you know other people who might be interested in this workshop do send them the information or this edition of ‘Inspire’.


Look out for July’s issue of ‘Inspire’ that will be about How is your year going?

This will provide you with an opportunity to review your year so far in a constructive and motivating way, so that you can adjust goals if necessary, and identify actions to take to ensure that you are on course to achieve your goals and dreams for 2006.


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  • 1:1 coaching and mentoring
  • in-house and public workshops

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